Still holding out for Mr. Right, even as middle age quickly approaches? Don't hold your breath, says Lori Gottlieb. Here, the author and single mom explains why true love may be a fantasy — and why that's not necessarily a bad thing.
Although I don't agree with everything she's saying, I must say that this interesting article from the Atlantic Monthly magazine has a point and - although I don't agree - makes a good case on why women should settle for "Mr. Good Enough."
Our society and even Hollywood have somewhat ingrained in our minds that we -women- should be looking for "Mr Right", fall madly in Love and Marry him. Divorce rates in our modern society teach us that reality is a little bit more complex. So here is the question that pays : "To settle or not ? because while being with a partner who is "beneath you" is problematic, being single just plain "sucks".
Eugene Volokh has an interesting comment on his blog regarding the matter, to him, "marriage isn't a passion-fest; it's more like a partnership formed to run a very small, mundane, and often boring nonprofit business." What do you - girls & guys - think? It goes back to a discussion I had we friends last week over dinner and could be summarized this way : aiming for mister Right and settling for mister kind of Right... I still don't believe that lowering your expectations will get you far, but again this is my humble opinion.
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